Potentiality and Reality

My friends are very dear to me and one of the biggest reason is that more than often they are the ones who make me realize my potential. They are the ones who boast my morale. Whenever this word 'friend' arises in our middle class Indian society, only negative thoughts and incidents are related. People do not realize that man is a social animal and being social is the only thing that differentiates man and animal is Being Social. However, that is a different topic which i would love to address separately.

Yes, I do have such friends who motivate me knowingly or unknowingly. I feel happy when they boast of my skills be it in person or in a group. I am sure if you look around carefully, you will find such people.

But today, more than my friends, i want to discuss my own self. It is very important and very helpful if you become self centered (better put as self conscious) at times. Ultimately, you have to improve yourself.

People who want their friend to win a race, do not want to lose it themselves. If you want to, you are not worthy of winning any race. Well, many of you will not agree in the first chance and that is totally acceptable because you probably never thought about it before.

In my life, friends play their part very well. They make me realize my potential and my capabilities. They always boast about me in a group by making statements which are bit higher than my capabilities and i as well as they know it. The more important part is to match that potentiality with the reality which completely depends on me as an individual. When i have achieved the extra things which they mention, I will be told what to do next. The only thing i have to do to know those next steps is, walk confidently into a group of friends and be receptive to what they say.

Fortunately, I have never been able to come up to their expectation about me. Yes, it is my fortune because the day those expectations are met, I might cease to learn.

At this point, i want to put forward one advice. If your friends talk high about you in front of their friends or people who are unknown to you, never think or act as if he is making fun of you. That is the worst you can do at least in front of strangers to destroy your individuality. Instead, listen carefully and make sure that next time you meet those people, your friend has better things to talk about you.

In case, you have views, incidents or anything else to share, the comment box is all yours and I am all ears. :)

Be receptive. Be knowledged.

I was helpful ... he was mean

Some people in our lives are very sweet and they are the ones who boast you to limits undefined. They can pretend that you mean the world to them. They are not dangerous but attachment to such people is something you need to take care of.

One of my classmates is friends with me only because i can help him in troubleshooting his computer. It was good for me too as even I learnt new things and handling various errors in computers and laptops.

At this point, i would like to tell you that i am not a rocket science engineer but an above average user of computers and very keen to be a developer so i can solve basic problems in PCs. I have formatted hundreds of pc using various operating software, cracked locked devices, hacked into other people's computers over the net and sent a message to them telling about the security. I admit that computers is one such thing for which i can wake up from deep sleep.

I can work happily with anybody as long as  I get something to learn esp a IT related thing.  Let me now continue talking about my friend. So, he was friends because I could help her and resolved many such problems in his laptop which would have otherwise cost him thousands of rupees. But I never kept any count of whatever he was saving. I really did not care at all till I was gaining knowledge. He started bringing his friends laptops to me which had become just dumb boxes and i bunked classes, gave my breaks to bring those boxes back to function somewhat like laptops.

There is a unique thing about humans. They have the ability to think in two manner. One is to think positively about people and also to think negatively. The essence of this comes to mind when negative thoughts overcome the positive ones. As an example, it is foolishness to tell a lover anything against the other one because he is not ready to listen.

I never thought anything against that person until today when he came to me and asked for my bike. I refused to give it to him. He told me that he will refuel it but I refused again. Then he said,"first time i am asking you for help and you are not helping". At this point, i really had to analyze myself and think over it. Then i realized how much of service i had given to him and how bluntly and how simply he told me that i never helped him.

I am disheartened with his attitude but it gives me immense pleasure when i see that i learnt a lot on computers and a very important life lesson that is to never to help more than asked for. You must make the person realize that your help is not easy. Some people never value what they get easily and one must identify such people and make them realize the importance of your help before extending a helping hand.


Keep watching this space for more examples from my life.

If you want to give your views or you have been in similar situation and want to share it with others then comment here...

Close Friend From Far

We meet many people in our lives and become very good friends with some. More than often, we do not even remember how we met and how we came close. I have friends from my locality and from my college. I would like to share my personal experience with a friend. It all started on the day when one of my friends called me past midnight which was not unusual as midnight was the time we usually started talking on phone and the conversation would continue for hours. Still, I felt that he was talking in a different manner, a bit decent than the way he used to talk. Before i would ask him, he told me that one of his friends was on conference, and the friend was a girl. With that, everything became clear and I did not feel the need to ask him the reason for his decency.

The girl lives in a very distant city in fact even the state boundaries changed twice between her and us. I knew a lot about her as my friend often shared his experiences with me and I liked a lot of what I knew about her behavior. It took little time for me to connect with her and talk as close friends do. We had nearly four hours of phone conversation on the very first time we talked. At the end of our conversation, I knew very surely that she is going to be fun to be friends with and I would probably enjoy her friendship. His way of talking openly and was one thing which I liked more than anything else. My friend was key player of our group as he was the one who introduced both of us and he acted as intermediate channel for our talks for several weeks. He is a very friendly person unlike me and I am very thankful to him for inducing a bit of his qualities into me.

It was probably the fastest friendship connection I ever experienced and as every other thing even this had some reason. First, I knew about the new friend even before I knew her name. Secondly, my opinions and views about several things including relationships were seconded by her. Thirdly, we both liked he idea of pen friends. Though now i have heard various versions like sms friends, phone friends blah blah but the feel of being cannot be replaced by any of these. E-mails can still be considered to a great extent. So with these things in common, we became friends soon converted into good friends and now very very good friends. I repeatedly hear a question that is,”Can boys and girls be just friends” to which I can very confidently reply in affirmation.

Today, several months have passed and our friendship is just getting stronger day by day. I am very happy to know her and I am very sure that it is same from her side too. I had not seen even her pictures for a month but I enjoyed talking to her and sharing experiences with her. The experiences were always made more spicy by my friend whom I admire for being so friendly with everyone.

What I learnt out of this friendship is that there are bunch of buddies out there in the world who think like you and whose ideas are similar to yours’ so always be open to accept friendships without considering physical boundaries and borders.