I was helpful ... he was mean

Some people in our lives are very sweet and they are the ones who boast you to limits undefined. They can pretend that you mean the world to them. They are not dangerous but attachment to such people is something you need to take care of.

One of my classmates is friends with me only because i can help him in troubleshooting his computer. It was good for me too as even I learnt new things and handling various errors in computers and laptops.

At this point, i would like to tell you that i am not a rocket science engineer but an above average user of computers and very keen to be a developer so i can solve basic problems in PCs. I have formatted hundreds of pc using various operating software, cracked locked devices, hacked into other people's computers over the net and sent a message to them telling about the security. I admit that computers is one such thing for which i can wake up from deep sleep.

I can work happily with anybody as long as  I get something to learn esp a IT related thing.  Let me now continue talking about my friend. So, he was friends because I could help her and resolved many such problems in his laptop which would have otherwise cost him thousands of rupees. But I never kept any count of whatever he was saving. I really did not care at all till I was gaining knowledge. He started bringing his friends laptops to me which had become just dumb boxes and i bunked classes, gave my breaks to bring those boxes back to function somewhat like laptops.

There is a unique thing about humans. They have the ability to think in two manner. One is to think positively about people and also to think negatively. The essence of this comes to mind when negative thoughts overcome the positive ones. As an example, it is foolishness to tell a lover anything against the other one because he is not ready to listen.

I never thought anything against that person until today when he came to me and asked for my bike. I refused to give it to him. He told me that he will refuel it but I refused again. Then he said,"first time i am asking you for help and you are not helping". At this point, i really had to analyze myself and think over it. Then i realized how much of service i had given to him and how bluntly and how simply he told me that i never helped him.

I am disheartened with his attitude but it gives me immense pleasure when i see that i learnt a lot on computers and a very important life lesson that is to never to help more than asked for. You must make the person realize that your help is not easy. Some people never value what they get easily and one must identify such people and make them realize the importance of your help before extending a helping hand.


Keep watching this space for more examples from my life.

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